Bereavement, grief and loss

Have you experienced a bereavement? Are you struggling to cope with grief and loss? Are you worried that how you are feeling is not normal? Know that you are not alone. I am very experienced supporting people who are going through a loss or bereavement, including sudden and traumatic deaths like suicide, overdoses, illnesses and car accidents. If you feel like you need some support with your grief and loss, please get in contact by calling me on 07875 493188 or emailing keylifetherapy@gmail.com

It might be helpful to know that a lot may happen to you physically as well as psychologically when someone dies, a relationship ends, you lose your job or your home, or you suffer some other deep loss:

Grief extends across physical and mental boundaries, you may have:

  • feelings commonly associated with grief, such as: shock, numbness, sadness, despair, anger, fear, guilt or relief
  • physical sensations in the body and people also often seem to be vulnerable to physical illnesses at this time
  • behaviours such as sleep disturbance, mood swings and loss or gain of appetite
  • cognitive reactions such as overwhelm, disbelief and confusion
  • spiritual reactions, including dreaming and experiencing the presence of your loved ones/ places.

How you experience these thoughts, feelings and sensations is unique to you. There is no normal or right way to experience grief. And, there is no set period of time within which you can be expected to “get over it”, no set pattern in which your grief can be expected to play out.

There are, however, different models which recognise common phases and stages of grief and loss which you might be experiencing and sometimes it can be helpful to know a little more about the range of experiences that people go through when they have had an experience like you are going through now. Some common phases of grief include: shock, numbness, separation and pain, then despair, which might be followed by acceptance and then resolution and reorganisation. In the final stages of grief, new patterns of life are established without the deceased, sometimes referred to as an emotional relocation of the deceased from the head to the heart. This might be a period of experiencing and reflecting on meaning.

However, remember your grief and sense of loss is unique to you and it will not follow a set pattern. You may not experience grief in a specific way, because people are individuals and no two bereavements, griefs or losses will be the same. But suffering grief and loss is also one of the most distressing experiences most people will go through, so it is important to take care of yourself physically and mentally and seek the support that you need.